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Now that I’ve had a chance to share a bunch of my information with you all, what do you like the most and where can I improve? After all I’m here for my viewers. Right? Let me know what you would like me to post more about and let me know what I shouldn’t post about. If you have any questions when it comes to being a quadriplegic or even as a father shoot me your question and I’ll answer as soon as I can. Thank you guys and I appreciate your time. Let’s make Uncle Donkey’s Tails go viral. Please share this blog with the world so that I can get back on top of my Empire. I would love to be a completely financially independent, quadriplegic

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I started this blog in hopes to generate my own income to help replenish my Special Needs Trust. As of right now it is rapidly running out of money and if I don’t change things ASAP I will need to sell my house to pay for my cares.

I want to leave this house for my children when I pass and that was the intentions when I bought it. That being said if you could please share this blog website with everybody you can on every social media account you can and make this go viral it would be very appreciated and it is absolutely needed. To everyone that makes a comment, and shares… Please please know that it is very appreciated and I wouldn’t be here asking and pleading if I didn’t truly need the help.

If you would like to donate I have also set up a GoFundMe at https://gofund.me/a13ceee4

Anyhow thank you thank you thank you and remember… If donkeydidit… You can too

When I was a kid, let me tell you… I was very reckless. By the time I turned 18 though… I was very responsible and today I don’t participate in any of it.

I grew up between two homes, moms and dad’s and in total there was eight of us children. As a child I had horrible ADHD and by the age of ten I started hanging out with the wrong crowd and kids older than I was. I started smoking cigarettes at that age and I would take things that did not belong to me. By the age of 12 I had smoked marijuana for the first time. I would fight and argue and I didn’t really listen to my parents so I was in trouble all the time. At 14 I was sneaking out, stealing cigarettes and alcohol from my parents, and smoking marjana with my “friends”. I was a very reckless child.

It was so bad that when I would run in to my childhood friends parents as an adult they would tell me they don’t understand how I never ended up in jail or prison. That being said though I started working at 15 and at 16 years old I got kicked out of my parents house.

When I got kicked out I immediately started making better decisions. I worked full-time and other than smoking a little bit of marijuana here and there, I did not associate with anybody that did and I did not participate in any sort of breaking the law.

When I was 18, I met my ex-wife and by 21 I was raising 3 kids. I don’t smoke marijuana anymore and I can’t stand the way it makes me feel but at that point in my life I still did, but that would change very quickly.

One night I had gotten off of work, smoked a little marjana, and I was drinking a beer hanging out on my front porch when all of a sudden… About 8 police officers walked up. They were looking for one of my brothers because he had apparently beat up his wife (I have never laid my hands on a woman). They asked if they could come in and search for him and with nothing to hide I told them yes.

When they were done with the search and about to leave, one of them came up to me and said… I can tell you’re trying to do the right thing and raise your children, really seem like a good guy with good intentions, but, we saw your marijuana in there and if I wanted to I could go get a warrant and come back. Let me tell you… That very night no more than 10 minutes later I had thrown everything away and didn’t look back my children were way more important to me and I wasn’t going to risk losing them.

After my accident I started having really bad muscle spasms and quite a few of the quadriplegics I had talked to suggested I should try to smoke marijuana. They said it should help. So I tried it… let me tell you I could not stand it… It made me feel horrible and that was the very last time I’ve done anything remotely reckless. Keep your love ones close and your children closer. Never do anything that’s going to jeopardize their lives in any way. If you do have children stand up and raise them like you should. Did you make the decision to have sex and that results in having a child. Do the right thing and be there for them

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I want to be very detailed about my story and exactly what I have gone through. That includes my divorce… That being said I would have to mention some things about my ex-wife that she did, didn’t do, and how she is doing now ( because she is doing much better and making better choices). Would that be wrong of me to talk about my ex and what happened in the past. Is it legal for me to do so or is that infringing on her privacy? Anyhow I would like to know what you think please comment like and share. Thank you so much and don’t forget… If donkeydidit… You can too!

I love spending time with my kids. Whether we watch a movie, go on a stroll around the block, go hiking, I’ve had my wheelchair on some pretty sketchy trails. I enjoy going to the mountains with them, taking them swimming, just anything that involves one on one time between me and my children. Unlike I was when I was their age, they are very good responsible children that aren’t afraid to ask.

I enjoy going on long drives and do quite frequently. I can’t stand sitting in the house for too long. I also find joy in showing people how to work on their cars or replace a broken part. That is something I do quite often as well.

I am a family man and I enjoy spending time with all of my family as often as possible. Get together, Christmas, birthday parties, just any excuse to get together really. I can’t really go camping anymore but I will still drive out and visit the family reunions that takes place. I will also host barbecues quite often and invite family over.

As a quadriplegic I can’t really buy myself anything new. That being said I find joy in buying things for my children when I can afford it. I enjoy lighting my fire pit and letting all the kids roast marshmallow.

I enjoy designing things and talking somebody through exactly how to set something up so that it looks exactly like I want it to when they are done and I’m good at doing so without getting irritated or impatient.

I enjoy mediating when people I know have a problem and help them come to a conclusion where everybody agrees. Going to the races on the weekend is a good time for me as well. Basically as long as I’m not sitting at home for too many days in a row then I am happy. Last but not least I enjoy learning new things.

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What would you like to know about me? What would you like me to talk about? What are your Curiosities? I’m eager to know… What would your posts be about if you were me?

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As a quadriplegic you are very suseptible to getting pressure ulcers. Back in August 2023 the air cushion on my wheelchair went flat and I didn’t know it. That resulted in me acquiring a stage 4 pressure ulcer. It was pretty big, 6 cm long by 5 cm wide by 4 cm deep. It was all the way down to bone. When I went to the wound clinic on August 8th, 2023 to get it debrided and the narcotic tissue removed… Now I have had pressure ulcers in the past and let me tell you, it was one of the worst things I’ve ever gone through. I ended up getting a really bad bone infection and spent 6 months in the hospital. I told myself it would never happen again. As you can imagine I was completely devastated when we found this one. That being said I had a very serious discussion with my doctor. I told him no matter what I cannot end up in the hospital, my children need me and it’s not an option. He said okay, but, to be completely honest with you… This is probably going to require surgery in order to heal. Stage 4 pressure ulcers don’t just heal on their own.

I have very good self discipline and I went home that day and put myself on bed rest. I did a bunch of research on how to heal them and what I could do to accelerate the healing process. Everything I read suggested that a high protein diet with the addition of collagen peptides would give me the best chance of healing it without surgery. In addition to putting myself on bed rest I started taking in 90 g of protein a day as well as taking collagen supplements twice a day.

It’s only happened a few times in my life but I ended up getting pretty lucky. My doctor was blown away. He did not understand it and it should not have been possible according to him. However exactly 5 months later to the day. January 8th, 2024 was the last time I would have to report to the wound clinic. My doctor declared me healed. He told me, what you’ve done here should not be possible. People don’t just heal stage 4 pressure ulcers. Especially the size of mine, and to do it in 5 months is even crazier he said. He said they usually take more than a year and that’s with surgery.

What motivated me was not only the fact that my children needed me, but, the fact that I can’t stand hospitals. They are so depressing. If I was going to be on bed rest… I would much rather be on bed rest at home. Where I’m in control. Where I get to control what I eat. With the people I love, my children, family members, and friends.

I can’t go without mentioning that I don’t think it would have been possible if it wasn’t for my little sister and sister-in-law. The countless times they drove from their house to mine because I needed this or that. They did everything they could to help me keep an upbeat positive attitude. I totally believe that if you keep a positive attitude you can overcome so many different things.

Anyhow that’s my story for today. Shout out to my sister and her girlfriend. Also if you don’t know I have set up a GoFundMe and started this blog to raise money So that I can continue to pay for my evening caregivers and not have to sell my house. I really want to leave this house to my children when I pass. This is the only house they’ve ever known. They walked to elementary school from here, they walk to their middle school, and as long as things get corrected they will walk to their High School from here. They won’t be displaced, they won’t have to meet new friends, and they won’t have to lose old friends. When I was a child we were constantly moving and I went to nine different schools. I absolutely hated it and I don’t want to do it to my children so I hope I figure it out. Please like comment and share my blog and website with everybody you possibly know and If you are able to and you would like to help out, please go check out my GoFundMe at

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Just by sharing my website and blog information you are helping out more than you know. So thank you!

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February 14th, 2013… If you have been able to follow along on my blog, you might realize that is the same year as the car accident June 28th, 2013… So 4 months and 14 days before the accident,  I made dinner reservations at a very nice restaurant. Barbacoa actually. This would be the night I proposed to my ex-wife. She wore a very nice dress, and I a tuxedo. I hyped myself up and distinctly remember this very warm feeling that consumed my body that evening. I told myself… Tonight is the Night… You got this… She’s going to be yours forever!

Luck would have it that we just so happened to be seated right next to an older couple that were good friends with the restaurant owner. I don’t remember how we came about talking to them and learning all this information exactly, but, it happened and they even helped me plot my proposal. I wish I remembered their names, for now I will just refer to them as him and her or he and she… We established enough of a friendship the short hour we were there at this point, that they were willing to help me anyway they can pull this off.

We came up with the plan that she was going to make up an excuse to take my ex-wife to the ladies room with her. While they were in there I was to get staged at the end of the wine tunnel directly in front of a water fountain with candles all over It, ready to drop to one knee. This is where the restaurant owner would be ready and waiting to get everybody’s attention. The restaurant was packed!

As I stood there waiting for my ex to come out of the ladies room… It seemed like forever and I couldn’t take my eyes off the bathroom door. Finally the door opened and both ladies were headed my way. I stood there waiting nervous shaky and one hand in my pocket holding the engagement ring. The restaurant owner asked for everyone’s attention. Even if I wanted to turn back (I didn’t) it was too late now… Here she comes, the time is now!

At this point all eyes are on me as she gets closer and closer. Boom I dropped to one knee with my hand out holding the engagement ring… Calling her by her first middle and last name, following with will you marry me. I don’t know why but I remember her eyes seeming so big. After what seemed like forever, she looked down at me, eyes full of tears… she finally responded, yes, Yes I will. I was wrong, but I thought we were going to be together forever. That being said though, looking back I have no regrets. Everything happens for a reason and it was a huge learning experience. I learned how not to act and how to act and I learned that I need to have boundaries no matter who I’m dating. I learned that communication is extremely important matter what your wife comes first right after your children.

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When it comes to my life and being “independent”… I need caregivers to help me with everyday tasks. I need 4 different caregivers to get me through 1 week, 2 for nighttime and 2 for daytime. I used to go through caregivers so much and I’ve had so many of them over the past 10 years. Usually between 18 and 22 years old and then they move on to a better job or make poor choices and lose their job. That being said though It’s almost been impossible to find caregivers to cover my daytime shift for almost 4 years now. About right after covid hit.

I have to use an agency for my daytime caregivers and I private pay my nighttime caregivers. If I could afford to pay for my nighttime and my daytime caregivers it might not be so hard to find replacements. However it is much too expensive for me and it’s exactly why my trust is running out of money.

My trust pays for my nighttime caregivers and boy let me tell you… It is expensive! Just for my 2 nighttime caregivers it’s over $50,000.00 annually. That does not count what I have to pay a payroll company, It does not include any overtime, and it does not include any of my other needs such as weekly lawn mow, snow removal, fall leaf pickup, plumbing, HVAC, and vehicle maintenance just to name a few.

I am fortunate enough to have Medicaid and Medicare to help with my daytime caregivers. That being said though, it is almost impossible to find anybody willing to be a caregiver outside of private pay because they do not want to pay enough. I think it works out to like $13.50 an hour. Granted it’s not hard work and I’m a pretty laid back individual but nobody wants to come to work for $13.50 an hour. Especially when everything else you can do pays $3 more per hour. Really sucks because there’s a lot of people like me that really really need the help and depend on the help. I have posted so many ads and contacted so many different agencies over the last 4 years. All with no luck.

I have been with one of my daytime Caregivers for 7 years now. She’s in her 60’s now and can hardly walk anymore. She needs both of her knees replaced and she has a really hard time walking. In fact 2 days ago she fell going from the living room to my bedroom.  Scratched her arm all up and bruised her shoulder because her knee popped out of place. That being said I need to find somebody that can replace her ASAP. So if you know anybody looking and willing to work please send them my way.  Even if they’re new and have never done caregiving before. I am very good at explaining things and how to do them and I am very patient. So no experience is necessary.

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