Describe a phase in life that was difficult to say goodbye to.
Hands down, the phase in life that was most difficult for me to say goodbye to was the toddler years of my children. When we got in our car accident the kids were only six four and two years old. I missed out on at least two or three years of the ability to toss them up in the air, be the Tickle Monster, the adventure Seeker, and the “sure son let me show you.
I was never afraid to give my ex-wife a break from the kids after I was gone at work all day. If I wasn’t working we were always on an adventure, the kids and I. Especially if mom had to work. Diapers, no problem. Bath time, no problem. Time to eat, no problem. I feel like anybody can be a dad… but I wasn’t just a dad, I was a parent! I mean I still am but. Also, considering the fact that my real biological father walked out of my life when I was five and my mother was pretty much a full-time single divorced mom… that being said I’ve had the chance to see into a lot of men’s lives. Let me tell you, there’s not a lot of single fathers out there. There is however, a lot of Deadbeats. Typically far more than women. So, if you’ve been around for a while you know, but if you’re new you don’t… for the last 8 years I’ve pretty much been a full-time single father and quadriplegic in a wheelchair. Quadriplegic for almost 13 and 8 years ago my ex and I did custody court and ultimately I received majority custody. For the first 4 years it was pretty by the book that the kids went to Mom’s every other weekend and one month out of Summer. Every other holiday things like that. About 4 years ago that all changed and made no longer wanted to go over there because of the choices she was making and the people she was allowing Within her life. That point it started going from every other weekend to one weekend a month or gets them this week but not the next two weeks and get them on a random week. They just legitimately do not like going over there and today they absolutely refuse. I’ve told her I want to help and get her on the right path so that she can start fixing her relationship with the kids. Unfortunately, she attacks me and puts me down and I just bite my tongue and she does it again. I would 100% prefer she does it to me though! However that’s not the case, I won’t get into it but just know… My heart HURTS for these CHILDREN!
I know I got off track with that one too, haha. I’m just trying to give you guys more! Anyhow, it may have been difficult to say goodbye to the toddler years… But, they don’t really remember those years and the memories, the things we’ve done together, and the places we’ve gone… Far exceed the good times we had in those first five and a half years!
Being a parent is only as difficult as you make it. I’ll tell you what, no joke, I love being a father more and more everyday! It’s amazing!
Don’t forget to to stop and be thankful! You thankful for the good times and a bad times! It’s the good times that keep us going and it’s the bad times that teach us! So whatever you’re doing stop, take a look around think about your children and your family, your car, or even your house. Think about what you have to truly be grateful for. Stop, take a deep breath and just say thank you! Believe me when I say… Life can always be worse! No matter what you’re going through good or bad it’s also important to remember, it’s only temporary! Everyone is going to have good days and bad days.
Remember, if donkeydidit… You can too!
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