First before anything, I never forget that I’m a father and I don’t do anything without thinking about my children first and I put them first before anything. Here are some details to help you understand the type of father I am, and allow you to judge, good or bad? Let me know…I’ve fought a long hard fight and having kids full-time probably makes it harder but if you’re not fighting for your kids what kind of parent are you really?
My stepson lives with Mom and if you read my story you sort of know what happened. Otherwise I’ve kept them by my side since 2019 and I will have it no other way. They are all three very respectful thoughtful children.
I always hold my children accountable for their actions or failure to act. I am not afraid to embarrass them in front of their friends for acting inappropriately and no matter what they’ve done wrong if they come to me and tell me about it rather than hiding it or lying about it, I’m always sure to keep my cool and not get upset.
They respect their elders and even though I have a bad mouth at times, until they turn 18 they will watch how they speak and I don’t allow swearing. The two I have full time are 13 and 14 years old. My stepson just turned 18 on Groundhog’s Day so I took him to get his state ID, we went to lunch, and then I gave him some money to buy lottery tickets. When my daughter turned 14 I let her have a sleepover with five of her friends. My youngest just turned 13 in January and he had a sleepover here with four of his friends.
I’ve always been a sucker for my kids and they can talk me into just about anything LOL. Despite that they rarely get in trouble. Let alone get in trouble for doing something they already got in trouble for in the past. For the most part they learn from their mistakes. I never have an issue trusting them and I always make sure they know… If they want me to treat them like they are responsible then they need to make responsible decisions. I point out their responsible decisions as well as the ones that are not.
You will never hear me say I need a break from my children, you are out when you turn 18, or get out of my face. I want them to feel like I’m their best friend. I don’t want them to be afraid to come to me about things and I don’t want them to feel like they need to get away or run from me.
If they ask me for something… As long as they are not in trouble or grounded, which truthfully, they hardly ever are… I almost never tell them no. If they need something and I can’t afford it, I will start saving right then and there.
Some might disagree, however, I don’t believe in making them do a whole bunch of chores. This is their childhood, it is their only time in life to be Carefree. So as long as their pets are taken care of, homework is done, and they clean their room when I want it clean… Then I pretty much let them do what they want. As long as they ask first, it’s appropriate for someone their age to be doing, and they do it responsibly… Fine then… By all means… Have fun. Oh and they have to take out and bring in the trash cans each week.
I don’t get upset with them often but when I do they definitely know it and I make it clear. It rarely happens and typically only when they’re arguing or not doing what they’re asked to do. It usually doesn’t last for more than 5 minutes and I never let it ruin my day. I get mad, they correct it, I get over it, and we move on.
I wasn’t so good about it in the beginning and I think it was because of how awful she treated me… But, I try really hard not to and I almost never say anything negative to them about their mother.
Your jaw would fall off your face if I mentioned some of the things my ex-wife did to me and put me through, but that’s not why I’m here. I’m not here to be negative and this isn’t therapy.
Anyhow if you made it this far thank you for reading! Hope you enjoyed learning my techniques with my children and please let me know??? Good or bad father? What is your opinion? Would you take my advice or try applying one of my techniques?
Anyways that’s all for now…
Don’t forget if Donkeydidit you can too! Thank you and good luck
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