Almost immediately after the divorce I was hospitalized with a bone infection and needed serious surgery. I discovered the Health and Welfare had no right to take the kids from me and As soon as my skin flap surgery was done and I was able to convince my doctor to release me on bed rest… I went home and after about a week and a half I said screw this, my kids need to be at home with their father. Not living in a two-bedroom apartment with their auntie, cousin, and grandmother. After everything they had been through…
A very nasty divorce, witnessing their mom get physically and verbally abused by her boyfriend, feeling abandoned because suddenly both of their parents are gone, and having almost no idea where mom and Dad went because I was in the hospital for almost 6 months and their mother had her own issues. There was no way, I wasn’t having it.
They needed their own space, a place to call their own, their own room that they can shut the door too for some privacy and quiet time. A place where they could be comfortable and act like themselves, let loose a little bit without worrying about getting in trouble…
So some time in February 2019 took myself off bed rest early and they moved back in with me. I have had them full-time ever since. Now don’t get me wrong they do go to Mom’s every other weekend Friday night through Sunday evening. But the majority of the time they are with me… She does step up and give the kids a ride back to my house or to and from doctors appointments once in awhile if I’m busy and she’ll help me out by taking me to an appointment here and there, but, She does not help me out financially, and I don’t make her pay child support…
Back then I was only receiving about $1,300 a month in SSDI for all three of us to live off of and currently I get just over $1,500. It’s nothing I know, but, I make it work. Thankfully I’ve had decent credit. Not So Much Anymore as my credit score is now like a 649 currently but I do have a 99% payment history. As you can imagine, I’ve accumulated quite a debt between loans and credit card accounts as a means to get things the kids and I need because I didn’t have the cash on hand and it wasn’t something the trust can pay for.
I want to work and earn my own income for sure and I have a couple business ideas that I think would do quite well. On top of that my sister-in-law and I want to start a new IT company. In order to do that though I need lots of training and a business loan is a must. So now I have a problem, because of the debt I acquired over the years supporting my household… I highly doubt I could get a business loan until I pay down my debt.
Over half of my total accumulated debt isn’t technically mine, like an idiot… being the nice, kind, generous, guy that gives the shirt off his back… I cosigned on a vehicle for my ex-girlfriend. She is still currently making the payments but it’s almost $20,000. Yes I was dating her, but, I did it because I saw a single mom struggling to raise three kids with two hoopty vehicles that were anything but dependable. Growing up my mother raised us as a single mom so it pulled on my Heartstrings. On top of that I was taught that as a man you take care of your lady and that’s what I’ve always done. From my first girlfriend to my last, I take care of my lady.
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